What Is Worse? – You Want It All or Nothing Appeals

What is worse, not knowing what you like, or liking almost everything so you don’t know what to pursue? Let’s figure out how to solve both of these dilemmas.

Some of the people I work with suffer from not knowing their passions in life. Nothing excites them, everything is kind of vanilla. If they don’t even know what they want for breakfast, how will they be able to figure out what to do with their lives that bring them meaning?

Then we have the polar opposite, in those who are excited about everything and run around chasing one butterfly prettier than the next. These people are great at finding things they like, but no more have they gotten started and something else that seems more exciting moves their focus away from what they just started…

I can relate to both of these situations, in my younger years I was not in touch with my true desire and didn’t know what it was supposed to feel like to get excited about something. That is probably one of the reasons I studied economics at university…

I then “awakened” after a health crisis and connected to (part of) my Life Purpose and suddenly so many things were calling out to me. I had a hard time sticking with anything for any length of time, since something even more exciting had come my way.

There seems to be a 3-step process happening, that I have observed both in myself and in many of my clients that I would like to take you through. It is possible to be connected to your heart’s desire AND have the ability to know what things to pursue and which ones to put on the back burner, or not do at all since they are not a good fit with what you’re all about.

Phase 1    ”I Don’t Know What I Like”

This phase if often characterized by a deep inner longing that just won’t go away. You know there is more for you to do in life, but what? Feeling lost and not connected to anything is painful, and unfortunately it often takes some kind of crisis to catapult someone out of this phase.

But why let it go on for so long that you invite crisis into your life? What seems to be happening more and more is that people are able to come to increased awareness by consciously re-activating their “desire function”. I say re-activating since your “desire function” was in the “on” position when you were born.

What likely turned it “off” was a slow and gradual process listening more and more to outside messages than to your inner voice as you made decisions in your life.

Phase 2    ”I Like So Many Things I Can’t Choose”

Here you have, often suddenly, or by gradually honoring your higher self and inner voice, reconnected with how it feels to like something. This feeling brings great excitement often followed by a desire to take action. The only problem is that so many things are exciting that you get overwhelmed and possibly confused in how to choose from the “smorgasbord” of life.

Phase 3    ”Let’s Add Discernment”

If phase 2, where excitement brings you all over the place, is not followed by increased discernment around who you are at the core of your being, and what you are here to do, and where you find deeper meaning, you risk “burning out” and returning to a more withdrawn phase 1.

That’s why it is so important to bring in discernment and gain awareness to see what path to pursue, and what “doings” will bring you your “right life”. Without being able to parse your “likes” through this filter you are still stuck since you can’t do it all.

When it is Essential to be Present!

The Beatles song goes “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans” and it’s so true that unless you are truly “home” to experience every moment of your life, it will go by and you won’t notice.

If you expect life to be smooth sailing you will likely get very frustrated as soon as stuff comes up, but life is designed to send challenges your way so you can keep learning and growing.

To get the most out of life and stay anchored in spite of what comes your way, it is essential to understand that we operate in a dual mode, I think of it as a cross. On the horizontal axis we move through time and “stuff” comes our way. On the vertical axis your connection to source energy and presence brings focus and resources, and there is always a calm here. Just like it is always calm at the bottom of a lake, even on the windiest of days.

If you think that your life is the ups and downs on the surface of the lake (the horizontal axis), you’re in for an exhausting roller coaster ride. But if you become aware that there is another reality within you, what comes your way during life is less daunting.

It is always important to be present to get the most out of your experiences, and to be able to be your best for yourself and for those in your life. But it is essential to be present in these 3 circumstances:

If you allow yourself to identify with emotions and thoughts when the going gets tough in your life, chances are that challenges, big and small, will take over your life and keep you stuck and likely in suffering.

Through presence you gain the clarity to see the difference between challenges you can do something about, and those that are out of your control, and then surrender to what is. This seizing of resistance will miraculously allow solutions to come in to your life that you are not privy to when you operate from resistance mode.

It is easy to fall into a pattern where we live for the big milestones in life and keep waiting for certain things, like a job or a relationship, before we start living for real. That way of thinking is nothing but an illusion and will likely rob you of those everyday gems your life is sprinkled with.

When you can be present in every moment you will be there fully to enjoy a happy hug from your child, the smell of grass in the summer, and other precious moments that easily are lost as you hurry towards the next big thing in your life.

Unless you consciously set your direction for what you want your life to be about, chances are that you are operating in default mode and are living somebody else’s agenda or even life! If that is the case, no wonder it is not bringing you that deeper meaning you are looking for…

To connect with what you are all about and what you are here to do it is crucial that you are fully in the moment. By being present you will find the expression of your purpose that is right for you right now. Those answers can only come from within yourself and only when you are “home”.

Don’t wake up to the realization that you have lived a life that wasn’t yours when you have run out of time and energy. Connect with your purpose and make it come alive by being in the moment everyday of your life starting with today.

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